Monday, February 10, 2014

Nai Talim - Konkan

We got to attend this year's Nai Talim as well. It was indeed a last minute decision since I was a little apprehensive about going alone with the girls in on overnight bus. But! It all turned out to be an amazing experience from the start to the end. The overnight sleeper bus got the first squeal of delight from all of us! Had never seen anything like this before- a bus with only beds , no seats!
Anyways we arrived the next morning in Kudal and got a ride from a co-passenger when my auto didn't arrive to pick me up. Such things can happen only in India. You can trust a complete stranger and things happen very spontaneously. Everything doesn't have to be planned ! Our next stop was in the local fruit and flower market. There were a group of aajis selling flowers and when I asked them if they could take care of my luggage & the girls while I shopped @ for fruits, they promptly agreed! I don;t know where else in the world such things can happen? This is the benefit of living in a "developing country" - not being so "developed" has retained a great level of humanity & love in our folks. Looking out for each other comes naturally..no one is really a stranger here. And a mother with two young children is instantly helped. That's why I love this country. You are NEVER alone.

New Education:
Finally we reached our destination and wow ! The sight of the Nai Talim camp was really something: folks pitching tents, the beautiful Arabian sea right next to us, the silvery sand, familiar faces, children steeped in sand play! The sessions started and each one was a gem in itself. The five days of Nai Talim was really in every sense " NAI TALIM" or " New Education". We learned things no one ever mentioned in the schools or colleges or anywhere else. Whether Mukundji's recount of the tribal Gond community or Guruji's brilliant overview of the robust rural systems of India or Neelkant mama's talk on his life as a Shepard  each and every word  was brimming with true knowledge, love and passion. One never felt like getting up from the sessions. There was so much churning happening- so many Qs raised..especially on where we are headed as a country or individual, is so called  "development" really what we need for our country, are our rural systems devoid of any knowledge, have we been really under-developed all this while that we need to get "developed", what are the lives and knowledge systems of our ancient folks, our tribals? So many thoughts, so much pondering.  Makes one wonder as to whether the education we have received is of any use at all- it neither teaches us to co-exist with others nor with the environment @ us. We are the uneducated ones completely lacking skills & creativity, not our rural or tribal folks. We have so much to learn from them.

The sessions did an amazing thing for me. It cleared out all my doubts about where India stands in terms of development. Having left the States 4 yrs back, there are times when I question our decision for ourselves and our children? Did we do the right thing leaving the States? Aren't we shutting out a host of opportunities? Guruji's talk made it crystal clear for me- that the future is really in the past. We are highly developed just the way we were. Our rural systems had perfected it all in a sense. It is our aping of the west , our big cities culture, our current education that has dug the grave for us. And it is this co-existence with nature, others and ourselves that everybody has to return to. Where every family is an entrepreneur, a nature conservationist, a factory, an educator ,  an owner and a laborer. This is how our folks have lived and prospered for ages but yet we are clamoring @ in darkness looking for solutions as our standards of what is development and good for us has been set by others.

Unique Learning :
While the adults were immersed in true education , the kids were having a grand time by themselves. This year's Nai Talim recreated the wonderful system of "Gotul" that is commonly seen in tribal villages. Gotul is the center of a tribal community where children are educated. Nai Talim's Gotul served as the community center for the kids. They hung out with each other , slept together with no adult intervention what so ever. The sessions planned for them also followed the Gotul culture. The children were engaged in interesting activities like shell collection and jewelry making, math & science activities, magic show, pottery, learning music from the Kalkeri students, Bharatnatyam session , story-telling , and of course splashing in the sea. Whether learning from a potter or music from the Kalkeri  children with the sea as the backdrop,  it was indeed an unique learning experience for the children. The freedom in the physical environment & mental space, the company of  interesting & compassionate adults & ages from all ages, social strata , backgrounds and countries, the endless opportunities for play in the sand, the swimming in the sea ( While Chellu learned to swim like a fish in the sea, Kunju spent hours lost in her interactions with the sand & the sea) , the constant rendezvous with the beach ( its creatures - living and dead ), the endless chats over meals, visit to the nearby fishermen village, living in the tents, usage of dry toilets and bathrooms..everything together offered a classic learning opportunity for the children & adults alike .From true socialization to adjusting to a different way of life in tune with nature, the five days of Nail Talim drenched our children & us,  in meaningful learning that ages of schooling can't even dream to!

Red Flags:
This year's Nai Talim raised many red flags for us to ponder about. Claude Alvaris's talk on the damages of the tourism industry on Goa's fragile eco-system as well as our interactions with the local fishermen's village
made us aware of how the locals are being punished for no fault of theirs. Trawling, global climate, tourism, breaking of traditional practices in fishing has wreaked havoc in the fisherman's life forcing him to shift to the cities to fend for himself. It felt very sad and frustrating at the same time. And it is the same story everywhere-farming, pottery, weaving, fishing..every traditional occupation is being threatened because of globalization. It's really greed at the bottom of all this. While our traditional societies learned to fend for themselves while being in complete unison with nature, our modern societies are pushing everyone to the brink of existence, especially the rural & ancient societies for no fault of theirs. The sessions sowed the seeds of introspection & reflection. Also augmented with it were the visits to the local fisherman's village & learning about their life and struggles. It is a great reality check , especially for us urban folks!
Personally it was also very thrilling for me to learn that the village is a Swadhyay village when I saw the words "Jay Yogeshwar" written on the door-steps of one of the homes. I got to go back for a one on one visit with a family - the connection was instant! As Swadhyayees we bonded immediately and it was amazing to know how their lives were impacted by Swadhyay.

Nai Talim Family:
Unlike last year, this time @ all of us stayed together for the entire duration of the shivir- cooked, cleaned, washed, made homes & did whatever was necessary for the workshop together. This created a very close bond and by the end of the 5 days it felt like one big family. I felt nostalgic about leaving everyone the last day. Living in the same space gave way to meaningful conversations with each other and we got to interact and build relationships with so many people from different walks of life. Where else would I have got to meet folks like Robin, Raefel, or Mary? The gem was indeed knowing Aishwarya, a member of the Hijada community up-close and personal. Where else would we have ever got to know someone like her? Learning about her life, her struggles, her dreams brought in such a strong sense of oneness for me. We are all JUST THE SAME albeit our differences in our external appearances.

Motivation and More motivations:
Karan's talk on his attempt at urban organic farming & his probing into fears & insecurities, Indulkarji's discussion on his tribal school in the Western Ghats, the Kalkeri Sangeet Vidyalaya..all these were so motivating ! Right in front of us were folks who had followed their heart's calling & broken away from fears & doubts . These are the true teachers- the ones who can beckon you to dream beyond your conditioning. I enjoyed each and every talk immensely. It was also amazing to see so many young folks from all sorts of backgrounds carving their own unique paths in life.

The five days of Nai Talim felt like home for me. Like " my people, my community".  At the end of it all I was filled with so much hope and motivation. That change is possible and is already in the works. I do sincerely hope for cementing my relationships with all the folks I met there for ages to come- for myself and for my family. I had a hard time adjusting back to my routine, urban life in Pune. My eyes would well up when remembering Sachin, Meenal & Mrunal and the Nai Talim family. I'm extremely grateful for having known each and everyone of them...





Monday, October 21, 2013

Some days are nothing short of a miracle!- Kunju's first public win, Henry's Birthday Party and Our first playdate with Shravani

I got up today quite clueless about what to do- today's BSK got cancelled and suddenly the whole day seemed to open up in front of me like an endless possibility..With Shankar flying to Goa first thing in the morning it became obvious that it was just the 3 of us.. I thought of things to do but nothing materialized..but one thing became apparent -the tone of the day was set in positivism & gratitude. I checked my FB account and found people thrilled about Chellu's cooking..Also felt very nice to share pictures of our Canada's trip on Vidya Natarajan's request..When you start the day receiving and giving appreciation then it is bound to go in the right direction!
God had already decided the day for me..I got a clue when my house-help got her daughter Shravani to play with the girls..We have been talking about it for quite sometime now. I've been urging  Meena to get her child for the BSK class as well as to play with the girls and with the toys in our house. I've often felt that we need to share more often the abundance we have in our lives with those that don't. Meena has been borrowing toys and books for quite some time now and I guess she got finally convinced to get her girl. She also wants Shravani to learn English from us- so the arrangement seemed like a win-win situation for us since I've wanted the girls to interact with more Marathi speaking kids.

From the moment Shravani arrived the girls were thrilled. The 3 of them spent a good 4 hrs completely in tune with each other. Shravani only spoke Marathi while the girls spoke Hindi. But an hour or so into the playdate it was magical as to how they started using Marathi words!! Wow! That's the power of human interactions- THE BEST WAY TO LEARN. Languages can never be taught--they can only be spoke and heard and learnt. I was so happy to see the girls completely share their toys and everything else with Shravani just as they would with their bldg and other friends. No differentiation- thanks to Swadhyay and to a certain extent to the travel that HSing has got into our lives, they have got so used to socialization with all sorts of people irrespective of their languages, classes, background etc..This is IMMENSE & will be such a strength of theirs. To be able to befriend everyone irrespective of how different they are! After a lunch together Meena came to pick up Shravani & thus came  a beautiful play-date to an end. We can't wait to receive Shravani again after a week. Also was excited when Meena invited the girls to come and play in their house. I'm sure once that starts, the girls will pick up Marathi in no time! See ? Learning can happen everywhere, anywhere..In fact community based mentoring is the BEST way to learn. To soak ourselves in each others' lives and find our teachers in the most common yet uncommon places. I've started to fall in love with this concept of community based mentoring!!

Next came Henry's bday party. I'm telling you God had chalked out the day for me! Shreedhari asked me once or twice in the morning as to whether it was already evening? When asked why she promptly replied that today was Henry the Chicken's ( her fav soft toy these days!) birthday and that she is throwing a bday party..I didn't give it much attention then but realized later on that the girls had planned it ALL OUT. Once Shravani left they got to work. They wanted to decorate the room first for the party and didn't want me anywhere near them. So I picked up a book and relaxed for the afternoon and eventually drifted off to sleep. When I got up I was utterly surprised- the girls had climbed up the ladder to get the decorations from the loft, used them beautifully around the room including cleaning up and arranging their paintings beautifully and had even taken a bath to become spotless! They had also dressed up the bday girl ( yes Henry Cherry is a girl!) in some chamkili type cloth that I had purchased for Ganpati decorations.
Chellu works on the bread cake




Next thing they wanted to go to the destination center (DC)  themselves to buy bread and yogurt to make the bday cake! This is the 2nd time in the week they have wanted to shop by themselves. And DC is a good 15 mins walk ( for adults) one way involving crossing traffic ( inside Magarpatta itself)! I tried to dissuade them but they were hell bent! So off they went and came a good 40 mins later. I can't believe it sometimes- that these girls have learnt to cross the road & to shop by themselves. Shruthkirti has started to show a keen interest in subtraction ever since she started to shop, so that she knows she gets the right amount back. Truly Life is the BEST teacher.
Kunju ofcourse breaks into a jig!
Chellu then got to work and made a bread cake with a topping of chocolaty yogurt- an idea she got from watching Wake Up Sid. They invited Dhriti who arrived promptly and then the party began. It was funny for me to see how in ALL HONESTY they sang for Henry and also cut the cake , that too with the special knife that we had purchased for Kunju's bday. Chellu then got the eco -friendly disposable cups to distribute the cake to everyone--it was as though they had planned EVERYTHING OUT. Amazing!- their sense of planning & execution. This is management at its best!



The Birthday cake!
Birthday girl
Toys arranged for decorations
Decorations

More decorations






Cutting the cake 





My house help joins the celebrations

Chellu distributes the cake


 Then came the Dandiya! Wow today was truly a seamless flow of positivity. We all got dressed in our best Dandiya attire and set off to Seasons Mall to participate in the Dandiya competition. We didn't go for competing at all. In fact I went purely for Kunju's sake -since she LOVES to dance and ONLY  dances the entire day! It was really for her- for her learning and enjoyment. While the girls and I danced separately initially , eventually we started to dance together since they LOVE to dance with me. And I love it too. Its a diffn kinda magic -to dance with your girls.We had the loveliest time together. While Chelul eventually tired up, Kunju was NON-STOP. Danced the entire night...she was in her best form..you could see her spirit shining literally, just like how Chellu is when she is cooking. My gosh- this is TRUE learning. When the body, mind and spirit are engrossed in an activity. Like nothing else matters, like the whole world can go to hell! She came up with all sorts new steps, some funny even that made me laugh! OMG! i'll never forget those hrs of dancing with her..It was a privilege of sorts to have witnessed it! And guess what? When the prizes were announced Kunju gets selected for Best Female Kid Dancer!! Well, I'm not surprised at  all since she was really the only kid who literally danced thru the event for a good 3 hrs! She has been thrilled with the prize giving ceremony and asked me to call up her dad & grandparents to convey to them the good news!
Getting all decked up for dandiya




Wow! What a day..A gift from God ? A miracle of sorts? A day that let me witness the magic & miracle that my children are? A day that lest me realize how precious they are? These are the days I thank my stars AGAIN & AGAIN for having chosen HSing, for having prioritized my kids over work, career etc...so that I can live every moment with them and witness their lives in all its entirety and silliness- whether its the birthday celebration of Henry the chicken or whether its trying to keep up with the dance steps of Shreedhari! And they are SO MANY such days. Where the girls keep doing stuff that seem nothing short of miracles..that's the beauty of  not sending one's kids to school! 

Tuesday, August 6, 2013

Nature Play

We decided to go to Aditi Garden today for some nature time. The weather is finally clearing up and after a LOOOOOOOOOONG  spell of rains we all are in the mood these days to step out. Moreover the girls especially  Chellu is in a very physical mode these days and doing indoor activities is getting harder. The girls cycled to Aditi Garden while I walked with them. Inspired by another mom's blog Putti's world, we started out by making faces with natural materials like leaves, bark , branches etc..All of us enjoyed the activity thoroughly. Chellu especially did a gr8 job of searching for appropriate stuff ..She really enjoys designing so much. And then the girls took off for their own activity for the rest of the time...They decided to first decorate the bed- sheet with leaves and then climbed up a tree. I did a small activity with poem recital ( Kunju) and describing the tree ( Chellu) and what's the tree telling you ( both)..they liked that too.


A good three hours flew by with us engaged in nature...Absolutely loved the time we spent with each other and with nature. Especially the swing and cradle making by the girls...design & innovation come so naturally to children. We just need to give them the space and freedom and then step back. Everything unfolds so beautifully.



B ut again they went off in their own directions..They asked for the bed-sheet and soon we had a "house"



 And once they got down Chellu decided to tie a "jhoola"...the best part was how many attempts she made to perfect it and perfect & pretty it did turn out to be.  First a standing swing and then a sitting one.
Really perfect! Kunju had a good time swinging in it.





 And soon afterwards it became a cradle ..




 While they were busy experimenting with the jhoola I decided to paint a dry leaf.


Sunday, August 4, 2013

When Art Rules The Roost

Last week we enjoyed a day when art took over and consumed the girls. That day, first thing in the morning I had a very messy house to clean up . So I handed over rice flour and Rangoli colors to the girls and asked them to make some kolams. And lo! they were engrossed for almost an hour. Came up with some fun designs. Chellu tried the "acchu" or "die" and liked it too..

 The rangolis set the mood for the day and for the rest of the day the sisters were indulged in their own art creations. They went on to do wall -art , make their own key chains and finally indulged in glass colour painting on plastic
sheets. We ended up making some pretty ones that went on to adorn our living room window. The last activity was suggested by me but finalized by them. The rest of it were creations of their mind. And I had such fun watching them and doing it with them. It is one thing when art is planned and done and another completely different thing when it comes from the heart. The spontaneity, the creativity, the joy ..these are worth experiencing when it comes with art from within!

Making their "key chain" -they asked for old keys for their pretend play and then used it to make a chain
Chellu works on wall art with her sister's hands & legs
Wall Mehendi





More wall art


Chellu's wall art 
Chellu's copy drawing of the Statue of Liberty
Glass color painting



"Dad"
Glass color painitng


Kunju enjoys her glass color painting